Sometimes guys complain that women they met for sex only are falling in love with them. "I didnt want that, I told her from the beginning, i made it clear that.."
A poor guy did everything in his power to stop her from producing an ocean of feelings. yet she did it.. was it first time? Normally not, it has happened with other girls, previously. Do i feel sorry for the guy? Or for the girl?
I dont give a shit about guy or girl but i can see the pattern here. Since he managed to do it more than once. Here is how i think.
Normally i ditch guys whining about ex falling in love. Because i think its a bullshit. It might be a way to convince me that he is good in bed. Itmight be a way to strenthern own self-confidence. It might be a way to brag. None of those means anything to me.
Once i met a guy, we had good sex. After first time i told him what i liked and didnt like. We met again. Good sex this time as well. He had an interesting personal touch in sex. I liked it but it was also a warning signal, when i like sex. So I decided to read our chat. I might have missed smth. While reading i realised that this guy was a type who had made his exes to fall for him. I complitely forgot that part of conversation. In his text it sounded like he felt sorry for causing such feeling and he is happy he ended it in a peaceful way.
Sometimes we create situations we are not aware leading to complications. This guy, just like many others, is unaware of that his personal touch in sex is the reason she gets emotional. I believe him when he says he is sorry. But maybe i should tell him what cause the outcome he had to deal with over and over again.
He is passionate.. i like passion. Who doesnt? To feel desirable and wanted. Its a confirmation most women seek. She feels mentally stronger, more confident, which leads to better sex , to a variable sex. Sex with an emotional touch.
When face to face he likes to look inside her eyes while stroking her as if she is his only and favorite pet. This is a very strong message of liking. I dont think he does like that much but the way message is received by her is emotional. He strokes her chic , her belly, her breast and neck while penetrating her eyes with his. Womens eyes is like a portal to her way of perception of the reality. Women have a great ability to turn reality to surreality. Eye contact triggers stringer that ability. She will see what she wants to see, full of colors and meaning. Do you, as a man, want her to see what she wants to see?? Thats a question he needs to reply on before he fucks the way he does 😁
To those women who fall in that way i can give a piece of advice. What u get during sex with this type of men is just a sex. Outside sex, a person who doesnt have feelings towards u, he will not be passionate or look in ur eyes. He will be an empty vessel. The well is dry outside bed chamber. The sex he had with u could be his way to express or see sex, maybe he saw it somewhere in his childhood or in the movie. Maybe he just wanted to feel something through it. Whichever reason it is he is not evil person. I find his way kind of charming.
I dont know which advice to give.. for or against personal touch in sex...u can play all along and feel that personal touch which is quite triggering, confirming, makes u feel attractive and desirable. It leads to a good sex.. but just like Cinderella remember that after midnight all that passion and desire will turn into a rubbish 🙈 thats how i think its the best way to treat men like that. i might have it all wrong, i dont know. But somehow it feel like right analyse of the situation 😁
In the end i just want to add that i have changed my mind in one question .. as a result of my analyse here. I shouldn't ditch guys who make girls to produce feelings. I am strong enough to experience them and feel sex through his eyes. I just need all the time to remember to see him outside sex. A wild self-confident man turning into a shy and insecure someone 😏 and i will smile looking at this kitten who was a lion just five minutes ago, while i am a lion now from being a kitten just five minutes ago 🦁😁
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